Ladies, all my life I was always the curvy one out of all my siblings; small waist big hips. As much as I tried to loose weight those strong features always stayed because of genetics I guess. When I was in the world living a life that was not pleasing to the Most High YAH, I wore the tightest dresses and skirts to emphasize the shape of my body; I knew it was a body that people would get surgery for as it was sexualized in the media, so Ofcourse I wanted to show it off... was it right? Ofcourse not!
As I started to dress modestly, the transition was very hard. I mean, I just came out of the worldly lifestyle, I still had all my clubbing dresses in the closet… my first thought was to make sure I was covered at least even if the clothes were skin tight, and throw on a jacket on top or a cardigan. I noticed that people started to think I was insecure of my body because I would hide my behind. I remembered how I used to talk to The Most High and ask him why modesty made other women and men uncomfortable. When I used to show off my body in skin tight close, everyone praised me… when I covered, everyone started asking “aren’t you hot in that?”, “why so insecure?!”, “Show off your body!”, “if I had your body I would not know how to act!!”, “ I can’t believe you’re hiding what people get surgery for!”… all of these comments irritated me!!!! I wanted people to see me for who I was… not my body !!!
As years went by, The Most High through the spirit started to convict me to throw away all my scandalous clothes. It was time for the next level. I was so excited and thrilled; that journey alone was quite interesting, finding my taste of style and figuring out what suited my body. I can now say I’m quite comfortable sharing some tips!
Modesty is different for every women, some prefer to hide their whole entire arms while others believe it’s okay to wear tank tops. I personally never liked showing my arms since I was a teenager lol, so covering my arms is my go to; the most I would show is up to my elbow.
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When it comes to covering the breasts, I prefer neck lines that won’t show cleavage. I try my best to stay away from v-necks as they are not my best friends! I like a nice fitted top as well, not too tight and not too loose…but just right!
(Circled below is what I go for)
When it comes to skirts, I always go for a skirt that passes my knees. Modesty is when the knees and thigh are covered. I make sure my skirts are not tight on my thighs as that would show too much of my curves. I always go for a skirt that holds my waist well to show a feminine silhouette. It also compliments a curvy woman and doesn’t make you appear bigger than you are.
(Circled below is what I go for)
When it comes to dresses I make sure that they are not too tight, but also not too loose as that would make a curvy woman appear larger. Ofcourse the dress has to cover the knees, and not hold my thighs tight. Go to dresses as a curvy woman is one that holds the waist tight, it helps with your hourglass shape, and also gives you a nice feminine look.
(Circled below is what I go for)
The secret to modesty is to try to be as mysterious as possible. Don’t give the crowd all the imagination they want. All of that is for your husband alone!!! He deserves to see every inch of your skin, curves, and beauty. Modesty starts from within. How you dress exposes what’s going on in the heart.
Shalom sis, I love this blog post APTTMH! The. visuals do it for me. I find myself trying to explain modesty to women, but you did it so well with pictures. Thx.